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No, it was when he stopped eating dinner with me.&#8217;<\/i><\/b><br \/><i><br \/>That was the lightbulb moment. That was when I discovered there is no better way to get inside people&#8217;s lives than through their stories about food.<\/i><\/p>\n<p>Did you know that the food we eat reveals a lot about how we love?<\/p>\n<p>Psychologist Dr Andrea Oskis shows us how we connect with each other and how we can change our relationship &#8216;recipes&#8217; for the better. Along the way, she also reveals her own food story about love and loss.<\/p>\n<p>Inviting us into her therapy room, she tells us:<\/p>\n<p><b>the real reason why comfort food comforts<\/b><br \/><b>why dessert isn&#8217;t a good idea when you&#8217;re stressed<\/b><br \/><b>what<\/b> <b>makes children feel obliged to eat their greens<\/b><br \/><b>why you should never give a bottle of hot sauce to someone who has been rejected<\/b><\/p>\n<p>Be prepared to never look at your plate in the same way again.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>There is no better way to understand ourselves and our relationships with others than through what we eat. What does food tell us about love? For psychoanalytic therapist Andrea Oskis, the deeply personal stories her patients share with her and that tell her the most about them are not those about narcissist mothers, neglectful fathers or rivaling siblings. The stories that are the most revealing are their food stories. Food and attachment are entwined from day one; the first bond we make as a tiny human being is to the person who feeds us. 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